Reading List

A list of books recommended by websites, experts, and people who are facing this challenge. Courtesy of http://www.hopeandhealinglds.com/forum-for-wives/ with my own additions marked with ♥


A

Addiction Recovery Program: A Guide to Addiction Recovery and Healing, LDS Family Services. (TAGS: Books Relating to 12-Step Programs for the Sexually Addicted)

Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity (1999), Emily M. Brown. (TAGS: For Spouses)

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful (1994), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishers. (TAGS: For Spouses)

Anatomy of Peace, The.

And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fullfillment(2004), Laura M. Brotherson, CFLE

Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love, Amir Levine, M.D., and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A. ♥


B

Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting, and Enjoying the Self, Charles Whitfield (TAGS: For Spouses and Family Members)

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend


C

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, Melody Beattie; Hazelden. ­(TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, General Perspective)

Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones, and Leaders (2005), Mark Chamberlain, Dan Gray, & Rory Reid (Editors); Deseret Book. (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, LDS Perspective)

Courage to Be Yourself, The.

Cybersex Unhooked: A Workbook for Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior(2001), David L. Delmonico, Elizabeth Griffin & Joseph Moriarity. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)


D

Dance of Anger, The: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships. Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY. (TAGS: For Spouses)

Dance of Deception, The: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women’s Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY. (TAGS: For Spouses)

Dance of Intimacy, The. Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY. (TAGS: For Spouses)
Dance of Intimacy: A Woman’s Guide to Courageous Act of Change in Key Relationships, Harriet Lerner (TAGS: For Spouses and Family Members)

Discussing Pornography Problems with a Spouse: Confronting and Disclosing Secret Behaviors (2002 & 2005), Rory C. Reid & Dan Gray. Mental Health Publications, Salt Lake City, UT. (TAGS: For Spouses)

Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again. Michele Weiner-Davis. (TAGS: For Couples)


F

Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery (2005), Patrick Carnes. (TAGS: For Couples)

From Heartache to Healing: Finding Power In Christ to Deal With A Loved One’s Sexual Addiction (2010), Colleen C. & Philip A. Harrison, Windhaven Publishing. (TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, LDS Perspective)


G

Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps, The Classic Guide for All People In the Process of Recovery (1993), Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. Hazelden. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors, Books Relating to 12-Step Programs)

Growing Up: Gospel Answers about Maturation and Sex (2000), Brad Wilcox; Deseret Book Company. (TAGS: Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality, LDS Perspective)


H

He Did Deliver Me from Bondage (2002), Colleen G. Harrison; Windhaven Publishing and Productions. (TAGS: Books Relating to 12-Step Programs for the Sexually Addicted or for an Afflicted Spouse or Loved One, LDS Perspective)

He Restoreth My Soul: Understanding and Breaking the Chemical and Spiritual Chains of Pornography Addiction Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ (2010), Donald L. Hilton, Jr., M.D.; Forward Press. (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, LDS Perspective)

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (2004). Mark Laaser. Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Heartache to Healing by Colleen and Phil Harrison

Home Invasion: Protecting Your Family in a Culture that’s Gone Stark Raving Mad. Rebecca Hagelin. (TAGS: For Parents)

How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Character. Brenna & Stan Jones. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, Janis A. Spring (TAGS: For Spouses and Family Members)

How to Talk to Your Child about Sex (1999), Linda and Richard Eyre; St. Mark’s Press. (TAGS: Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality, LDS Perspective)


I

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2001), Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin. Hazelden, Center City, MN. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal (2001), Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik. Sourcebooks Inc., Naperville, Illinois. (TAGS: For Spouses)


K

Kids Ask About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age. Edited by Melissa R. Cox & the Medical Institute for Sexual Health. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)


L

Let It Go: A True Story of Tragedy and Forgiveness. Chris Williams. ♥

Let Virtue Garnish Thy Thoughts, LDS Church Distribution.

Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars (1999), Marsha Means. Fleming H. Revell, Grand Rapids, MI. (TAGS: For Spouses)

Living a Covenant Marriage: Practical Advice from Thirteen Experts Who've Walked in Your Shoes, (2004), Edited by Douglas E. Brinley and Daniel K. Judd, Salt Lake City, UT.

Lord, I Believe; Help Thou Mine Unbelief, Rod W. Jeppsen (TAGS: For Spouses and Family Members)

Lord, I Believe; Help Thou Mine Unbelief: A Workbook Approach (2005), Rod W. Jeppsen. (TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, LDS Perspective)

Love Dare, The. (2008), Stephen and Alex Kendrick.

Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity (2011), Mark Chamberlain, PhD & Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT. (TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, LDS Perspective)


N

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, Marshall B. Rosenberg. (TAGS: For Couples)
NOT “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity (2004), Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli. (TAGS: For Spouses)


O

Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality (1999), Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser & Mark Laaser. (TAGS: For Couples)

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction (2001), Patrick Carnes; Hazelden. (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, General Perspective)


P

Parenting Teens with Love & Logic. Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

Parenting with Love & Logic. Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

Peacegiver, The: How Christ Offers to Heal our Hearts and Homes, James L. Ferrell, Deseret Book. (TAGS: For Couples)

Porn Trap, The. (2008), Wendy Maltz & Larry Maltz. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Pornified: How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families. Pamela Paul. (TAGS: For Parents)

Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World: What You Need to Know to Make a Difference. Frank York & Jan LaRue. (TAGS: For Parents)

Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage. Wendy L. Watson. Deseret Book. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage. Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book. (TAGS: For Couples)

Putting on the Armor of God (the green bible) – written by a recovering sex addict


R

Rock-Solid Relationships: Strengthening Personal Relationships With Wisdom from the Scriptures, Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book. (TAGS: For Couples)


S

S-Anon 12-Steps, S-Anon Literature [for the loved ones of sexual addicts] www.sa.org (TAGS: Relating to 12-Step Programs for an Afflicted Spouse or Loved One)

Savior Heals Without a Scar, The. Sheri L. Dew & Wend Watson Nelson. (talk on CD) ♥

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, The. John M. Gottman. Three Rivers Press. (TAGS: For Couples)

Sexaholics Anonymous White Book (1989), SA Literature. — For Pornography & Sexual Addicts, www.sa.org (TAGS: Books Relating to 12-Step Programs for the Sexually Addicted)


T

Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls Us Apart, William J. Doherty, Guilford Press. (TAGS: For Couples)

“Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality: A Parent’s Guide,” see www.lds.org Family Home Evening Resource Manual (1983), (p 253–60). (TAGS: Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality, LDS Perspective)

Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children about Sex and Character. Pepper Schwartz & Dominic Cappello. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)


W

What Can I Do About Him Me?. (2012). Forward Press Publishing. Rhyll Anne Croshaw. ♥

What’s the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation (2008), Jill C. Manning; Shadow Mountain Press (General Audience/Parents and Youth). (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, General Perspective; For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Where Did I Come From? (2000), Peter Mayle; Kensington Publishing Corp. (TAGS: Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul. John Eldredge. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)


Y

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2009), Barbara Steffens & Marsha Means; New Horizon. ­(TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, General Perspective)


(Many of these titles are from the following sources: http://salifeline.org/resources/, http://www.drjillcmanning.com/id12.html, http://combatingpornography.org)